As you know, there was no blog post on Memorial Day. I hope everyone had an enjoyable weekend as we all remembered those that made the ultimate sacrifice for our freedoms. Before we can determine what's worth holding on to, we must understand the word "Worth." Basically worth is the value equivalent to that of someone or something under consideration. However, only we can place a value, or "worth" to us on it. Oh yes, this includes everything. Everything in your life has some value or worth that you place around it. You car, tools, things you save, and of course, the people in your life. For inanimate things like your car, tools, that old chair, some may have a sentimental value to you. Most of them do not. You Most times you are either a pack rat that doesn't want to throw anything out, or, when you do not need something, you simply discard it.
THE IMPORTANCE OF WORTH:
Worth holds a great deal of importance in your life. Whether you save things or discard them determines how you handle many things in your life. Especially people. We live in a disposable world. We don't fix things, we replace them. Often times we save the broken things we replaced just in case. Why are these traits important? Simply put, these behaviors determine how we handle almost every issue in our life.
INANIMATE OBJECTS DO NOT HAVE FEELINGS, PEOPLE DO.
What makes determining worth difficult is a persons emotions. For example, how many people do you know that do not end a relationship, even though they want to, until they have something or someone else to go to? Does that mean the person that is being strung along has worth? Of course, it does. However, it's misguided worth. Meaning, one person is being selfish. The other person does not have true worth to the other person. In a perfect world, people would practice honestly. If one person does not want to be with the other, they are honest and end the relationship. They do not wait until they have someone to replace them.
NEVER CONFUSE WORTH WITH BEING SELFISH
DO YOU KNOW YOURSELF?
Here is a link to an interesting article titled, "People Don't Actually Know Themselves Very Well."
How well do you know yourself? Are you that guy or gal that strings someone along until to find a replacement? Do you fix things or replace them? Do you save things? There are no right or wrong answers. For example, I am the type of guy that likes to fix things. Most times, I will fix them myself because I just like knowing how things work. Now, if I cannot fix it, I must determine it's worth to me. Do I get it fixed, or replace it? I also may save the old item in case the new one brings and I need parts. Therefore, that works for inanimate objects. Three basic choices.
1. Fix it,
2. Get it fixed,
3. Replace it.
There are no rocket scientist decisions here. However, when it comes to people, it's not that simple. People add a new component to the mix. Emotions. Emotions make things quite complicate because they could be derived out of selfishness, fairness, and other factors.
WHEN DOES IT START?
Like everything else, it starts at the beginning. Whether it's friendship or a relationship, it is always easier to end one before the roots are dug in. That brings another variable into the mix. Most people really do not want to hurt another. Therefore, they just go along. However, at some point, they will start to stray away. This may happen over time, which cause more emotional pain to the other person. As cold as it may sound, it does save a great deal of heartache if those three same principles are followed. If someone has a NON-SELFISH worth to you, address the issues and fix them. If you can't fix them together, get help fixing them. The last step, when all fails, replace it, meaning, move on. During this process, you must be honest with yourself. DOES THIS PERSON HOLD WORTH TO YOU? Meaning, do you want to fix it.
BEING SELFISH AND LEADING OTHERS ON IS NEVER THE RIGHT THING TO DO.
Obviously this topic can get quite deep. A blog post is intended for you to think. Then you can decide if you need to know more. In the vast majority of relationships at any level, when they end, one or the other WILL be hurt. It is very rare that one or the other is not. The only thing we can control is the type, and amount, of hurt.
Anything in life that has legitimate WORTH and VALUE to you at any level is important and requires the RIGHT kind of consideration, as well as actions taken. Anything less is being selfish, and I could provide you with scores of example, but honestly, you already know them.
Thank you ... Caesar Rondina
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