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The mother of my children, Kim-Rondina-Nelson. We spent 25 years together before we decided it was best we each follow our own path. God could not have blessed me with a better wife, mother, and friend. You have since remarried, and we are living proof that the concepts I write about are possible.

To my second family.  Bryan, you are the truest of friends. You have helped me with all my technical solutions, built all my websites, and most importantly, gave me your friendship. You never asked for anything in return but my friendship. As you put it, “that’s what we do”. You will always have my friendship. Shannon his wife. The only women I know who can drink two drinks in separate glasses, through two straws at the same time. Block Island memories. Love you. Donna, Bryan Jr., and Cassey. I will always cherish our memories and the time we have spent together. AJ, you stole my heart. No matter how old you get, I will always look at you as my third son. Never forget the first thing to check on after any surgery. You have all blessed me with the greatest gift. You treated me and welcomed me as part of your family. To say I love you all, just doesn’t seem to say enough. You will be forever in my heart. It won’t be long until were neighbors again. I’m seeing a boat cruise to Key West in our future.    

Balancing The Scale Self Help Book

     Each day we awake. We look in the mirror, and see ourselves. We look at our hair, our eyes, our teeth, and wonder, are we getting grey? Do our eyes look tired? Are our teeth white? Are we starting to look older? Then we wonder. What will the day bring? We might regret the argument we had last night. We think about so many different things that cross our minds, and start to ask ourselves many questions, but get few answers. We do whatever it is we do, and leave to start our day. On the way to work we’re thinking how much we don’t want to go to work, or how we’re going to pay for the kid’s braces, our bills, as well as whatever it is we have to do after work?

     Each day the routine is the same. Than one day, we ask ourselves, what am I doing? How did I get to this point? Where did all the time go? We can’t find the answers. It’s like cashing your paycheck on Friday and you’re broke on Monday. We have no idea where the money went. Money is like time, it just seems to slip away. We spent too much, life is so busy, we can’t get it all done in one day. How can we fix this? Can I do this every day? At the wedding or funeral we may have gone too recently, we saw our relative’s, and their children. It seems like they grew up overnight. They were just babies. Where did the time go? The one important thing these all have in common, is time.  Where did it go? Why did it pass so fast? Where was I?    

     What is time? What does it mean? What are the different types of time, and their effects on our lives? We don’t think about time in its true sense, because frankly, it scares us. Our fear is not so much about time itself, but what time represents. Don’t shake your heads, you have nothing to prove to me. You only have to answer these and any other questions to yourself. Some of the answers to these questions or problems you know, but don’t want to face them. We all fail drastically in facing the reality of time. We think if we ignore it, we won’t have to deal with its true meaning, so we choose to ignore it. When you realize it does exist, and it does have meaning, you’re scared, and you panic. Your gas tank is on E. You don’t want to get out of your car in the pouring rain to fill it, you take the gamble. The risk to see if you can make it home. Not to get wet, you just keep driving. Let me know how many times that worked for you.

     Just because we ignore something, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist, or it will go away. It doesn’t mean you won’t experience its effects. Did you really need me to tell you that? You already know this. We live it every day. We are risk takers. It’s in our blood. I don’t intend to give you a blood transfusion in this book, however, I do intend to show you concepts of time you never thought of, and how they are inter related. How they can and will affect your entire life. It’s up to you to decide what you will do with the information. Life is all about choices. This book is about time and the choices you can make. The things that our lives are either made of, or broken by. They make us wiser, or keep us stagnant. I’ve seen it, I’ve lived it, and I’ve learned it. The ones that understand time, are the innovators. They look in their mirror and say, today is going to be a great day. Be prepared for the truth. True stories, real situations, and real people. Sit back, relax, and see if you can find yourself in this book. Than make your choices.    

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